I am a broad-shouldered black man looking for friends with benefits. I prefer repeat visits (I don't think you can fully learn a woman's body in just one night). I am happily single, but I won't pass judgement if you're not. I can keep a secret if you can ;) I love to give massages and perform cunnilingus (I stay down till they chase me away ;) ). Pleasing you is important to me, so I like to take my time. I love kissing, touching and 'after' time snuggling (sex without these 'extras' has never made much sense to me). I'm looking for a sexually and emotionally secure woman who can handle a 'mostly physical' relationship. Alternately, a secure couple who wants to spice things up a bit. I love giving massages, eating pussy, sex (duh), and lots of snuggling and caressing 'after'. I will respond to anyone who takes the time to contact me. I have a special love for older and full-figured women as well as Southeast Asians, Redheads and Latinas, but not to the exclusion of others. Pics are appreciated (you've seen mine). I am drug, DRAMA and disease free and naturally expect the same. Discretion is a must, and I will pay you the same courtesy. I will never do anything to complicate your family life. The 'mostly physical' part doesn't necessarily mean that I'd only be available for sex. I've been known to do the whole dinner and a movie thing, and I've been known to help my 'fuckbuddies' with non-sexual aspects of their lives (moving furniture, fixing their computers, etc.), but always with the understanding that no act of kindness should be interpreted as a desire to begin a 'standard' relationship. I may CHOOSE to call you at random to say 'hi' and check on you. If I know your is sick, your father-in-law is in the hospital, or your got run over yesterday, I may CHOOSE to send you an encouraging email, text or IM. I may even CHOOSE to send you a "Hey, just thinkin' 'bout ya. Thanks for being my friend" card from time to time. I've been known to do all these things. None of them means that I wish to be your 'boyfriend' or anything else so complicated. They are merely expressions of who I am, and I like to make those who honor me with the gift of their time and their bodies feel special and appreciated. There is really no such thing as 'casual sex' to me. It means a lot to me that you consider me worthy of receiving that gift from you, and I treat it as such. To me, this is simple courtesy. It doesn't mean I'm falling in love, and it also doesn't mean I am remiss if I "fail" to do any of these things, even if I've CHOSEN to do them for you before. I generally express it this way: "Somewhere out there is a good man with your name written on his secret heart. I guarantee you that I'm NOT him, but I'll keep you warm until he shows up." ;) Light smokers are welcome, but please note that I am a non-smoker and would appreciate you not smoking during our meeting. Also, I love deep, passionate kissing, so I will provide you with peppermint oil mouthwash (works wonders). I have no interest in people who don't know the difference between 'speaking their minds' and just being plain rude. This trait DOES NOT attract me, regardless of how many other men may laud you or tell you how 'hot' it is. I expect the same civility and courtesy that I vigorously endeavor to extend to everyone who crosses my path. Rudeness is not strength; it is a weak-minded and weak-souled individual's IMITATION of strength. Save it for those weak-willed enough to be 'turned on' by such nonsense. I am not of their number. If you're proud of how mean, angry, hateful and/or hurtful you are, please don't bother me. I have no interest in helping you unpack baggage you may carry over what your ex 'did to you'. I never ask anyone to answer for sins of my past partners, and I for damn sure WILL NOT answer for anyone else's "offenses". If you thrive on conflict and turmoil (certainly you must know the sort of people I'm talking about...never happy when everything is calm and peaceful and NEEDING to stir up contention) I am DEFINITELY the wrong 'fuckfriend' for you. My inner peace is of utmost importance to me, and I will not allow anyone to disturb it (no strings, no drama, no headaches). I never ask for more than I'm willing to give, and you can be assured that I am probably one of THE most unobtrusive people you'll ever encounter. Also, know that I am a single father and business owner. My ren and my business are my life's foci. I 'play' with whatever time I have left, which (as any single parent knows) isn't nearly as much as I 'need' or would prefer. If you don't understand the difference between 'playing games' and the fact the I have clearly-defined goals and priorities and far more important responsibilities than satisfying my inordinate lust, please save us both some time. You will never be first in my life...hell, I'M not even first in my life :)...and I CERTAINLY don't expect or want to be first in your life. I only promise you courtesy, respect and appreciation, and these things are all I ask of you. If you're still reading...well, I'm shocked, quite frankly :) Shoot me a note and let's chat.

My Ideal Person I'm certain I thoroughly covered this in the section above.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Bosson

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Massage

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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