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why men should run around  

Jillthepill1000 33F
59 posts
10/19/2021 5:54 am
why men should run around

.....Can anyone tell me why Wives won’t give their husbands what they so need and want? Every man I have met in a marriage or just out of one, doesn’t or……...didn’t get whatever they needed, wanted or was curious about sexually in the home.

….I have a headache,……not in the mood…..I don’t like that……what is with you…..the are due home soon….I just had my hair done…..we don’t have time…..we just did last week….I’m still mad at you……Maybe tonight/tomorrow……I’ll make it up to you….and I’m just too tired.

….The man is absolutely right. If he can’t get it from his own wife, then that is REJECTION, and he should get it elsewhere. There are plenty of us women who want to take care of that part of his life that he needs, and what we need too. Willingly and with complete joy. Always nice to send us flowers though.…..Jill

reallyready46 64M
1383 posts
10/19/2021 8:41 am

Well I heard all those excuses and more, when I was married. I have heard from woman that their guys are a minute man and only wants the same thing over and over. So there are two sides to this. I tried therapy with her. I quit when the therapist told me that the solution was for every guy to be more like a woman. YIKES! I tried changing things up and yes I always went down on her and made sure she had cum several times.
My reward, told to wait for a year and that I had a hand for a reason. I never cheated on her. But found out afterwards she had cheated on me. So I have felt clueless about the real reasons.
On a side note, it amazes me how woman can put men off, but when a guy wants to put off sex, how terrible woman take it!

Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
10/19/2021 9:06 am

I swing, so for now all is well. But you are correct. Most Men, not all do not get satisfaction from their Wives. Some have joined our little sex club to have the fun that they are lacking. Great post!! Jill you are wonderful!!

Allhard4u50 62M
1725 posts
10/19/2021 10:13 am

Years ago the sex was great with the wife….but over the years she wanted less and less. I am not wired that way…I still need it. I’m on my 3rd special friend and we’re going almost a year. The sex just gets better and better…… We both are getting what we need and enjoying our playtime. Don’t make any moral judgments…I know cheating is wrong, but I made the choice and I couldn’t be happier….Whatever happens, happens….At least I have a great sex life right now….

gspotfinderyyc 60M
27 posts
10/19/2021 11:51 am

Jill - if more were like you then the whole world would be a better place. Just curious if you every discuss this with your lady friends and what they have to say?

peladodel56 67M
10340 posts
10/19/2021 12:29 pm

Por fin una mujer nos entiende... ja, jaaaa. GRACIAS !!!

RavenousRaven777 57M
99 posts
10/19/2021 7:25 pm

The ideal is so rare, as to be essentially nonexistent. Most of it is a front. I think if it went both ways and people were more open to new ideas regarding aging relationships, from both partners perspectives we might find an equilibrium in our society. Clearly what we’re currently doing isn’t working, as it’s based mostly in Puritan religious doctrine that become less and less relevant every day.

49outlaw 74M
4 posts
10/19/2021 10:46 pm

I ran into this wall 30 years ago. Came to this site to find what I needed. Women
Need to wake up but I doubt that will happen.

exsquid46 64M
640 posts
10/19/2021 11:42 pm

Ms. Jillthepill1000,

"Can anyone tell me why Wives won’t give their husbands what they so need and want?"

Only a wife could answer your question. It could have to do with a lot of different factors. They could be very religious and think sex is just for having a baby, it could have to do with being raised to think that sex is dirty, or she could be hiding something from her man.

There are a lot of women that are just don't like sex. They will use sex to get a man to marry them, but after they are married, she will slowly decrease the amount of sex.

She could have a low sex drive and just not need as much sex as her husband, or she could be stressed by all the responsibility of work, children, and money. All of those will put a woman off sex.

I know that when ever I wanted to try something new, I got called a pervert by my ex wife. She was raise to only have sex when she wanted children, or as a rare duty to her husband. So the process was slow in cutting back. Forget trying anything new, as she viewed that as sick.

I stayed with her out of a since of obligation to my children, and learned to go without. But after we divorced I found out the real reason she didn't like sex. I was a cover while her mother was alive. She loved sex with her girlfriend, just not men.

A lot of wives will pull the old bait a switch to get what they want.

toothysmile 58M
16539 posts
10/20/2021 2:57 am

Sex is just one part of the marriage equation and just as often it is the husband who ignores his wife's needs. It's hard to keep the flame burning for many years... So it's normal for either the man or the woman to look elsewhere after a while.
We should probably just accept it and deal with it with as much dignity as possible.

Great post! Thanks for bringing this subject up.

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