CanNotBearIt 48F  
607 posts
3/10/2019 5:46 pm

I was reading a new book by an author I've really liked for some time. The main character is a freshman in college and she is discussing sex with her new roommates. One of the three roommates says that sex can be good even if you don't have an orgasm.

Is she right?

Can sex still be good if no orgasm happens?
Other (answer in comments)

45 posts
3/14/2019 11:26 am

it is really not necessary and even do not happen all the time that orgasm is achieved on each and every sex sometimes one gets orgasm sometimes other , sometimes both and also sometimes both of them do not feel orgasm but still it gives satisfaction. it all depends on the state of mind and the flow it goes with...

Obelicss 55M
29 posts
3/11/2019 10:04 pm

In my point of wiew orgasm is needed....

Superman4695 33M
88 posts
3/11/2019 5:55 pm

Considering I always get off when masturbating because that's the purpose and I go over half hour to do it that is less preferable to even ten minutes with a woman where I don't orgasm. 15-20 minutes seems to be the ceiling for many women for sex playtime which is not long enough for me unless they and I are willing to go uncovered bj. Given concerns about STDs that doesn't happen often. About 25% of my encounters I orgasm. I don't understand the mindset of people that think a 2 minute bad ending to a game you played for 60 hours ruins the whole experience. Same with not getting off the fun you had playing didn't just evaporate like it never existed.

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1seeking1 53F  
1635 posts
3/11/2019 3:04 pm

Ic you mean cuddling, massage without orgasm , sure I agree. Sex and orgasms beneficial to my health, why else bother?

822231478 33M  
29 posts
3/11/2019 1:26 pm

As someone who has had issues not being able to orgasm due to medications (what an absolute deal-breaking side effect!) I know for a fact that while feeling great during but not being able to make it over the finish line is incredibly frustrating.. not to mention disappointing not only to yourself but to your partner as well!

Regardless if its something medical/physical/mental... the ability to not orgasm during/as a result of sex just isn't the same imo

lookink4realppl 53M  
1815 posts
3/11/2019 9:43 am

i agree a was with u

MyBaffies 49M
3042 posts
3/11/2019 3:19 am

Yes I've never orgasmed during sex, but that doesn't put me off as there's still so much to enjoy - watching her climax, exploring her, laying there together, running your fingers through her hair, slowly caressing her...


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jajo696 64F  
238 posts
3/10/2019 10:00 pm

But it is interesting......I would love to see the results extracted by gender. Cuz it definitely is a Mars/ Venus way of thinking....for many things ~~

jajo696 64F  
238 posts
3/10/2019 9:58 pm

Definitely yes ! Physical intimacy has many different faces and can be oh so wonderful in all aspects. It's about the journey, not necessarily the destination~~

Satyr48 70M
1843 posts
3/10/2019 9:25 pm

Good, yes... Great, no...

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3/10/2019 7:59 pm



Lkn4funwith2 53M
680 posts
3/10/2019 7:49 pm

    Quoting Lkn4funwith2:
    From my experience, sometimes just making a woman have many orgasms from a variety of stimulation and leaving her drained and satisfied is rewarding enough, even if I do not cum.
I forgot to add that if the WOMAN is the one who does not have any orgasms, I will only be with her 2 times, and if she still has no orgasms on the second time, I will no longer see her since I cannot satisfy her, or she might have something wrong.

Lkn4funwith2 53M
680 posts
3/10/2019 7:35 pm

From my experience, sometimes just making a woman have many orgasms from a variety of stimulation and leaving her drained and satisfied is rewarding enough, even if I do not cum.

CaliforniaHook 59M
22 posts
3/10/2019 7:19 pm

Sex is, well, sex; you know, getting naked and doing what feels good. Climax is great, but is it always necessary? Nah.

To put that into perspective, I want my partner to go as far as she can–with my help. I'll do anything for that. If I don't come in the process, I really don't care. I enjoy the journey.

Maybe it's me, but I try to pay attention to a partner, which requires a certain amount of intelligence with instinct. Often this combo is enough to to cool my jets while firing up hers! I love that she is fired up.

We can balance things out in other ways.

Heathen_G 60M
5864 posts
3/10/2019 7:15 pm

She is probably right from a woman's point of view, but not a mans point of view.

steel69steel 38M  
1 post
3/10/2019 6:27 pm

Yes agree, sometimes a long session without climax can be amazing.

mufdiver69er2 58M  
1119 posts
3/10/2019 6:09 pm

i voted other as i cant say..i always cum..

sexyldy1000 58F  
2691 posts
3/10/2019 6:03 pm

Actually when I was doing research for my previous blog on Dispelling Sex Myths, I included the following about being able to enjoy sex without having an orgasm:
“The idea that sex must lead to orgasm can be a very damaging thought for people of all genders and sexualities as it puts undue pressure on them and can cause anxiety—the two enemies of sexual pleasure,” says Melissa Coats, a licensed professional counsellor specializing in sex therapy. “Sex is meant to be pleasurable but there are many ways to find pleasure in sexual contact without orgasm.” Taking the pressure off yourself to always climax can lead to a more relaxed and positive experience.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.

Paulxx001 61M
6527 posts
3/10/2019 5:54 pm

Unless my partner is near death and it's an emotional connection...
Oh.. or let's say.. I've got minutes to live and BOOM
Or unless she's a life partner... and we're having an off night.. Sure. Yep I get that.
makes sense to me.
Otherwise.... sure.. once in a Blue Moon...
Yep.. I'm all into emotional connections.. on a 'one off'.
Otherwise n fuck that.

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CanNotBearIt 48F  
88 posts
3/10/2019 5:47 pm

I've had sex without orgasm before. A lot of times I just like the closeness and intimacy. It's not always about a race for the big bang.

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