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Hello, yes love to please my partners and not get any in return....but mine is different situation...my dick cannot work as it is damaged, so I can ever hope is that the lady is well pleasured....
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Permanently? Hell no. But on occasion, or even regularly, sure. we have done it both ways. One time it's her turn, another, mine. Most often we each get satisfied. normalisoktoo recently wrote a post about just liking the act of fucking irrespective of orgasm. Orgasm is not irrelevant, but it isn't mandatory either, and it isn't the ONLY thing. I think foreeverhard2 gave a thoughtful answer- it's a give and take relationship. No keeping score. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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 . It keeps the fire smouldering
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I am absolutely a pleaser. But I often wonder if I've grown into a pleaser because of my own issues. I have very rarely ever been able to achieve an orgasm the first time I'm with someone. Maybe it's nerves or confidence...I don't know. I've accepted it and work around it. I'm never disappointed anymore because I truly enjoy seeing the pleasure in others. I know my time will come. I'm at the point now where I enjoy an evening every now and then with just pleasing her. It's kind of like a gift. I give and don't expect nor want anything in return.
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I feel like sex is about mutual pleasure. That being said... If we are having sex on a fairly regular basis, I don't mind simply giving a blowjob, or doing the whole "edging" thing until he eventually comes. But esp given the last few months with a partner who seemed to lose all interest in actual participation from him, and only taking from me, NO... I refuse. Because truthfully, pleasing another truly turns me on! So for heaven sakes: reciprocation! Legally, it's questionable. Morally, disgusting. Personally... I like it. Your body may be a temple, but mine is a playground. Think weird things happen to you? I beg to differ: If a bear shits in the zoo A small something to add [post 3181492]
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1/11/2015 8:04 am |
I do enjoy and find a lot of pleasure in knowing I am pleasuring my partner ... I love to give oral, or an intimate massage and not be on the receiving end ... that being said, I would get very frustrated if it was always that way ...
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yes, my sub loves to please me!! But, as a Dom, I too like to control her orgasms...I like to bring close to orgasm to only to stop....edge play....she begs and begs...then I allow her to cum...and boy does she ever!!! I think if you have a healthy relationship with somebody, you will love to please your partner!! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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In the past, I have given without expecting anything in return. It honestly left me feeling used because it wasn't a 2-way street. I had to change if and how I did that. I've realized that I want to please just one person, do things just for him, make it more personal. But I will admit that I am like you. I can start out with the best of intentions and end up begging for him to fuck me.
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I know many gay men who are willing to 'suck and go' with no reciprocation, but I'm not sure how that would work with oral with a woman. That act is more intimate, it's not like she can pull down a zipper and haul it out for a quick blow-job. I suspect men advertising that either have psychological or physical issues or really low self esteem, and even then are counting for more once they start. There is a greater implied intimacy between men and women than between two men, and I doubt many women are looking for nothing but that from sex. I have taken care of a partner with no immediate return, but the reciprocation was certainly there at a later date. I wouldn't think that there would be many women who wanted or expected oral sex as nothing but a tongue to get them over. Most women need more build up than that anyway. Sex is seldom as direct and cut and dried as that with a woman in my experience unless there is some underlying psychological problem involved.  Lust brings you together, love keeps you there, sex keeps the mechanism lubricated. 
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Its a give and take type of thing, I like to go down, but hey, what the hell? What about Cockosarsus Rex? He get hungry too!  I don't to it just to get head, though it doesn't hurt, but yeah hey, I want something at least.   Hell I'd even split the difference and use one of her hands with mine to get somewhat off-ish Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts! 
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ive spent most of my adult life tryin to please before my own satisfaction,
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I have pleased someone else and not gotten the same back, usually if we don't have enough time for the both us to get a turn. But that is only on the rare occasion.
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I would not advertise as giver or taker only. i would be there for mutual pleasure. That said, I get huge joy form giving and would not hesitate on giving only but at some stage I would want the favour returned.
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intendadiversion replies on 1/12/2015 12:47 am: So did you send that guy packing? in a manner of speaking. When it is a long term relationship, it's a little more complicated than that. Legally, it's questionable. Morally, disgusting. Personally... I like it. Your body may be a temple, but mine is a playground. Think weird things happen to you? I beg to differ: If a bear shits in the zoo A small something to add [post 3181492]
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intenda, i am truly about shared pleasures. but i do get the most incredible satisfaction and pleasure from crawling between a woman's legs and making her cum. i would definitely like to go further and me cum too. but...........there are women i have met and seen that i would be most happy to just give them incredible pleasure and then them be on their way. what about you?
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I like things to be mutual unless circumstances prevent that from happening. If that is the case I am ok with pleasing my lover.
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I love to always give, but I also love and need to receive as well.  Funny women are incredibly sexy!
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hey i am not going to complain if it happens it happens just going to smile and be happy that she is happy
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I'm looking for mutually beneficial encounters. While I understand some men can get pleasure out of pleasing me, I NEED to make sure they are pleased as well. Only receiving oral would not be something I was interested in. Yeah, they enjoy it, but like you, I too need the dick during the encounter. I am single, there are no 'IOU' situations when it comes to sex. Either I am pleasured every time or I can, will and have move(d) on. As some of my lovers (all if they were questioned I would imagine) can attest to, I give a much better BJ after I have been stimulated the right way. I give more during sex as well after I have been pleasured. To sum up, I would not be happy either only giving or only receiving oral. I want the whole experience.
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That's tough to answer in a way that will convey my feelings. I definitely am a pleaser. I love to eat pussy, and I believe I'm quite good at it; tender at first, circling your clit but eventually exploring every part of your pussy. The taste and scent, drives me crazy!! I'm always listening for those moans that mean (don't stop) or your hands on the back of my head, meaning (more pressure). Knowing that you are being turned on by my oral which is making you WANT my cock, makes the idea of oral even hotter for me. So I like to please but have no problem getting my cock involved. This is the tricky part. I seem to not always cum anymore. This by no means diminishes the experience for me and makes me last and last and last usually giving a better experience for the woman. As long as she doesn't require the money shot as proof of her skill as a sexual woman, we would get along just fine.
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Never! I'm just elated that pleasing someone sexually pleases me. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Hello, yes love to please my partners and not get any in return....but mine is different situation...my dick cannot work as it is damaged, so I can ever hope is that the lady is well pleasured....
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I adore your curiosity, N... Please never lose that. A guy usually has to be 6 and a half inches to give my epiglottis the friction that I enjoy but I enjoy 7 or 8 or even 9 inches which I can keep down for 17 seconds. I'm very proud of that ability and my partners are suitably impressed. 
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I love giving oral to my lover as foreplay. It does turn me on, and I don't need genital reciprocity immediately; but I do get very hard and aroused and do like to fuck at some point afterward. But again, it doesn't have to be within five minutes, or even within the hour. The longer I wait, the harder I'm going to cum. Now there's another aspect to giving oral with no expectation in return: that is the pure satisfaction of pleasuring and finishing a woman. That's not quite the same pleasure as sexual release; but it's a great feeling nonetheless. Pleasing a woman, taking her to the top of the proverbial mountain and assisting her in reaching sexual nirvana is a very, very powerful high.
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Nothing wrong with it occasionally, as long as it's what someone wants to do for someone else...it's not expected or demanded. (Unless you are into that kind of thing) As seems to often be the case, I had written a blog that brought up a similar question. Confession
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The act has it's own built in gratification. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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It is always important to please the woman you are with....and that includes pleasing them without any expectations they will reciprocate.......but....there is no doubt that if you do it well that they will definitely want to do the same in return......so not expected but always welcomed.
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MOSTLY MEN WANT TO KISS NEAT AND CLEAN PUSSY AFTER GIVE DICK WOMEN MOUTH FOR SAME PURPOSE.. SO BOTH EXCITED.. WHEN DICK GO IN MOUTH MEN THINK.. SAME GONE IN PUSSY.. SO MEN FIRST WISH DICK IN MOUTH
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I could do that, for a limited time ( say a weekend or so) but eventually my cock would have to get involved, as it is a big part of who I am, and therefore integral to the whole sexual experience. Woodrow J. Evers
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As a gurl? Yes! I get more pleasure from pleasing!!! Robin
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I never thought this was as common as it appears. I have, for a few years now, been the 'giver' ( oral until her climax with no penetration or reciprocation), a situation which I have been more than happy to oblige and assumed she was happy with this too. However, reading your insightful replies, I may now have to acknowledge that this may be an 'issue' that needs addressing. In thinking that she wouldn't or couldn't have any complaints with what I was doing, I appear to have unwittingly ignored other desires.
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1 post 1/23/2015 8:17 pm |
We both sometimes enjoy orally pleasuring each other without any attention in return but we also have to have sex too. Always nice to have an orgasm in the middle of the day without having to make any effort. Lovely surprise. He would like for me to add for all of the women out there that if you would give your man a little unexpected attention on occassion he will go out of his way trying to please you. (I guess not all men but I would imagine most of them.)
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Just being part of something beautiful, like pleasuring a partner, is wonderful.
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For me, the pleasure is in the journey as well as looking forward to the trip. The greatest pleasure is in the giving. With all of my experience with taking care of myself, I'll be just fine.
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Sometimes pleasing someone is pleasing thyself. I've orgasmed from giving a blowjob, not one touch, below. The mans body quaked and shook.. And I'd meet him anywhere, anytime, to do that again. He's just like you though.. He believes in giving back. So if its all him, next time it was usually, all me.
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I am submissive by nature and absolutely love pleasing my Dom orally with nothing in return. I have never had an orgasm just by pleasing him that way but at times when he orgasms, the sounds he makes, the way his body stiffens and the taste of him have sent me right over the edge.
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I absolutely love to bring my partner to an amazing orgasm...I am all about giving nothing excites me more than to hear the moans of pleasure from my partner and feel the tension they experience right before orgasm. I can wait for mine until they have been satisfied
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cool
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I enjoy pleasing a woman orally and if that is all she wanted I would try my best but it is a turn-on so I would eventually wnat more.
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I enjoy pleasing a woman orally and if that is all she wanted I would try my best but it is a turn-on so I would eventually want more.
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2/3/2015 9:10 pm |
CERTIFIED PUSSY EATER RIGHT HERE BISEXUAL WOMAN WHO LOVES TO LICK AND NOT ONTO RECEIVING FROM WOMEN JUST INTO MAKING A WOMAN CUM AND MOAN
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I can't understand it. I will gladly give head but I do expect pleasure in return. I've had guys message me asking for a BJ and nothing in return, um no. But also I wouldn't have a guy give me oral and me not do anything either. I sent an Angel to watch over you last night, it returned in a hurry. I asked why, it said "Angels can't watch porn." Thanks for fucking traumatizing my fucking Angel! Don't bother trying to figure me out. Not even the little voices in my head understand me. It's pointless!
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